Makna Lagu Because Of You - Kelly Clarkson

Sebenernya lagu ini udah cukup lama sekitar tahun 2005an.
Entah kenapa pas lagi denger lagu ini di radio gue langsung buru-buru download mp3 nya.
Gak ngerti kenapa bisa menyentuh bangeeeet lagu ini buat gue.
Semacem ada chemistry gitu, jaelah gaya hahaha
Dan ternyataaaa~
Lagu ini cukup menyedihkan apabila kita dalami artinya. Dalam sebuah wawancara, Kelly Clarkson mengatakan bahwa lagu ini mengisahkan hubungannya dengan ibunya. Kelly dibesarkan dalam keluarga yang tidak utuh. Orang tuanya bercerai ketika ia masih muda. Dan selanjutnya ia menjalani hidup yang buruk dengan ibunya. Ibunya tampak menggantungkan hidupnya secara emosional kepada Kelly, dan Kelly tidak mau hal itu. Ia masih terlalu muda untuk menanggung beban itu.
Gileee!! Kenapa bisa sama banget sih Mbak Kelly nasibnya sama gue?!!
Pantes gitu ya waktu dengerin lagu ini gue mau nangis, gara-gara gak ngerti artinya hahaha
Bukan.. gara2 nyentuh banget, walaupun gue tau artinya tapi gak tau maksud lagu ini.
Dan ternyata artinya sama banget sama kisah hidup gue..

Mungkin bener lagu ini adalah curhat seorang Kelly Clarkson tentang orang tuanya, biar lebih afdol mending kita simak interview di situsnya EMI Music Publishing:

“‘Because Of You’ isn’t about breakups, it’s about my family. It is about growing up in a broken home. My parents were together for 17 years or so, and then all of the sudden, something went wrong. But I’ve talked to lots of friends who have seen domestic violence in their homes; I didn’t. But if you see those things as a child, you see a family member cheating or people not trusting each other or people not communicating with each other, that effects you. You end up afraid to trust people, because you think you’re going to get screwed over. Me and a friend of mine were up late one night talking about our lives, and it led to this song. I wrote it when I was 16, my friend was having a really hard time with her family. It was a different situation than mine, but I could relate to what she was going through. My parents were together for a long time, and suddenly one thing happens, and it’s over. That could happen to me. It made me feel like, why would I want to open up and trust someone? I know that it’s a childish way to look at it; life is a risk, and anything worth having is worth taking a risk for, but I wrote it when I was 16. I have learned a lot since then. At the same time, it doesn’t matter how old you are, you can still relate. I was 6 when my parents got divorced. I used to be the most closed off person. I didn’t want to get hurt. I had been messed over by friends, and I had been through a lot with my family. I didn’t pity myself, but I did put a wall up. I’m smarter now, but I have a good relationship with God, and that’s gotten better over the years. That’s why I’ve gotten smarter about situations. I’m a very trusting person now. I’m not going to let people screw me over left and right, but at the same time I’m not going to close myself off. That’s a big step for me.”

Pantesan lagu ini terasa begitu "real" – wong pengalaman pribadi penyanyinya. Tanpa harus terlalu disimak apa isi liriknya, Kelly Clarkson berhasil mengekspresikan kegetiran dan kemarahannya lewat permainan vokalnya.

Kira-kira beginilah makna dibalik lirik lagu tersebut..

I will not make the same mistakes that you did  
Aku tidak akan membuat kesalahan yang sama seperti yang engkau lakukan 

I will not let myself cause my heart so much misery 
Aku tidak akan membiarkan diriku
Menyebabkan hatiku sangat sengsara 

I will not break the way you did 
You fell so hard
Aku tidak akan melanggar seperti yang engkau lakukan, 
Kau jatuh begitu keras  

I learned the hard way, to never let it get that far
Aku telah belajar dari pengalaman pahit 
Untuk tidak pernah membiarkan hal itu terjadi sampai sejauh itu 

Because of you
Karena Engkau 
 
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Aku tidak akan pernah menyimpang terlalu jauh dari jalanku 

Because of you 
Karena Engkau 

I learned to play on the safe side
So I don't get hurt
Aku belajar bermain di sisi yang aman agar aku tidak terluka 

Because of you 
Karena Engkau 

I find it hard to trust 
Not only me, but everyone around me
Aku merasa sulit untuk mempercayai bukan hanya diriku, tapi semua orang di sekitarku 

Because of you 
Karena Engkau 

I'm afraid 
Aku takut 

I lose my way
Aku kehilangan caraku 

And it's not too long before you point it out
Dan itu tidak terlalu lama sebelum engkau menunjukkannya 

I cannot cry
Aku tidak bisa menangis 

Because I know that's weakness in your eyes
Karena aku tahu ada kelemahan tersirat di matamu 

I'm forced to fake a smile, a laugh 
Every day of my life
Aku terpaksa dalam kepalsuan
Senyum, tawa setiap hari dalam hidupku 

My heart can't possibly break
Hatiku tidak mungkin beristirahat 

When it wasn't even whole to start with
Saat hati itu bahkan tidak utuh sama sekali untuk menjadi landasan 

Because of you
Karena Engkau 
 
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Aku tidak akan pernah menyimpang terlalu jauh dari jalanku 

Because of you 
Karena Engkau 

I learned to play on the safe side
So I don't get hurt
Aku belajar bermain di sisi yang aman agar aku tidak terluka 

Because of you 
Karena Engkau 

I find it hard to trust 
Not only me, but everyone around me
Aku merasa sulit untuk mempercayai bukan hanya diriku, tapi semua orang di sekitarku 

Because of you 
Karena Engkau 

I'm afraid 
Aku takut 

I watched you die
Aku melihat kau mati2an  

I heard you cry, every night in your sleep
Aku mendengar kau menangis disetiap malam didalam tidurmu 

I was so young
Aku masih sangat muda 

You should have known better than to lean on me
Kau seharusnya tahu lebih baik daripada bersandar padaku 

You never thought of anyone else
Kau tidak pernah memikirkan orang lain 

You just saw your pain
Kau hanya melihat rasa sakitmu 

And now I cry 
In the middle of the night
Dan sekarang Aku menangis di tengah malam 

Over the same damn thing
Untuk hal menyebalkan yang sama 

Because of you 
Karena Engkau 
 
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Aku tidak akan pernah menyimpang terlalu jauh dari jalanku 

Because of you 
Karena Engkau 

I learned to play on the safe side
So I don't get hurt
Aku belajar bermain di sisi yang aman agar aku tidak terluka 

Because of you 
Karena Engkau 

I tried my hardest just to forget everything 
Aku mencoba segalanya bagiku paling sulit hanya untuk melupakan 

Because of you
Karena Engkau 

I don't know how to let anyone else in
Aku tidak tahu bagaimana membiarkan orang lain masuk (dalam hidupku) 

Because of you 
Karena Engkau 

I'm ashamed of my life because it's empty 
Aku malu dengan hidupku karena hidupku kosong 

Because of you
Karena Engkau 

I'm afraid 
Aku takut 

Because of you
Karenamu 
Because of you
Karenamu

Kayaknya lagu ini bakal nongkrong lama di playlist hp gue..
Yah, gue pikir cuma gue yang punya pengalaman hidup pahit sama ibunya..
Karena gak semua orang paham sama yang gue atau Kelly rasain, sebelum mereka merasakan sendiri..
Gak ada dan gak akan ada yang mau jauh dari ibu kecuali memang nasib yang mengatakan hidup gue harus seperti ini..
Beruntunglah kalian yang mempunyai ibu selayaknya ibu yang 'seharusnya'.
Karena gue, belum pernah merasakan itu...

There's Nobody Stronger Than A Single Mom

Being a single mom is not easy. Sometimes, after tiring and stressful times, all you need is some motivation to keep going.

This is the most difficult aspect of being a single mom apart from the financial challenges. You have to pamper your precious children as a mother and also scold them like a father when they go wrong.

As a single mom you have to be there for your children. They need your presence far more than any gifts you might buy for them. Children need quality time. You have to avail yourself to them as much as possible.

Let me ask you guys a question!

When you look at a single mom, what is it that you see?
A strong woman that can raise children on her own?
or an incomplete broken family?

You see to me a single mom
is a strong individual that has no choice but to raise her children on her own,
And I’m sure I speak for many single mom when I say that we didn’t plan to bring up our children alone

Do we choose to be a single mom?
That’s usually not the case.
But who do we blame? Do we blame the mothers or do we blame the fathers for this stereotyped race?

Me personally, raising my son as a single parent was never easy as i had him at a very young age,
But in this world that we now live in, it’s usually hard work to get the natural fathers to positively engage!

So what do we do?

We have to take on a role that we were never built to do,
Instead of being one parent of a family we end up playing the roles of two

Not to mention the worry of when our child gets ill then having to play the parts of two people
It’s so hard bringing up children in a role when we already know it should be equal.

So what next?

I know a lot of us worry thinking which man would want to take up our child as their own
But there’s many many many men out there who God has given the grace to be stepfathers so that we don’t have to do it alone.

The hard work that being a single mom will surely not be in vain,
God sees it all..

No matter what life brings you, always keep a smile on your face. I know that life can get hard, especially if you are a single mom like me.

But when it does get hard, remember that you are everything to your child. You are his comfort, his safe haven, his teacher, his friend and his biggest love.

Children are a mirror of our soul, they reflect all of our actions. If you are happy, so will be your child. If you are a single mom, it really is twice the work, twice the tears and twice the stress, but it is also twice the kisses, twice the hugs, twice the love and twice the pride♥